….. I would tell my younger self to work harder at overcoming her innate shyness and forge more close friendships.
When I was younger, I had little self-confidence and was painfully shy with people that I didn't know. I still am, to a certain extent, but have been trying to work on that. During the years that I was married to Stinky, there were always people around and we had a pretty decent social circle but the problem is that they were people that he drew to us. He is an extrovert extraordinaire! He draws people in so I never had to work at having people around me. Unfortunately this meant that, when we separated, a lot of those "friends" stayed with him and I was left with a very small social circle. Blink as they go by and you might miss them.
It's funny, there were always people around our house or some social thing to go to and I would actually get annoyed but, now, sometimes I miss it. I guess it's all about perspective.
I do have friends though. It's not like I'm a totally isolated hermit with noone but her cat. We're talking about quality over quantity in my case. Not a bad thing, when you think about it. I've stumbled around a bit over the years, learning how to cultivate and keep friendships. It's not as easy as you would think watching my ex work his magic but I'm getting there. I only wish that I had worked harder at that skill when I was younger. Teaching this old dog new tricks is tough.
|No flowers yet but we're getting there!|
I'm a work in progress but, then again, aren't we all?