My mother died just over a week ago.
I won't say that we had a "complicated" relationship because, honestly, there really wasn't much of a relationship.
Still...... the way she lived the last few years was sad.
The way she died - alone - was sad.
I have plenty to be bitter about and could be very negative.
I chose instead to let go and walk away; it saved my sanity (mostly anyway).
Still...... I am now dealing with the aftermath of a life not well-lived.
There are debts and dirt to deal with.
No assets except for her cat which is living under my daughter's bed at the moment.
I didn't even know the cat's name for sure until we found the vet records.
How damned sad is that?
The outpouring of sympathy and condolences from friends and acquaintances has been so nice
Most of the well-wishers don't realize the emotional distance between us and I, mostly, keep it to myself
It's easier to just say "Thank you"
So........ thank you.